You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
This book is considered a self-help book for anyone wanting to make a change in their life. I was originally attracted to this book because of the bright yellow cover, the font type and size, and the positive title. Jen Sincero has a great voice and immediately pulls you into her story as soon as you start reading. The biggest thing for me with this book was how Jen seemed to be talking directly at me, like an old friend would if I needed a good talking to.
Overall I give this book an 8 out 10. It was awesome and uplifting but not a 10. And although I won't spend the whole time bashing the book, because it was 80% awesome, I’ll also talk about all the things I loved about the book.
I loved this book because Jen calls you on your shit. All your excuses, your vulnerabilities, your whining and moping, and complaining. All the times you said ‘I can’t’ ‘I shouldn’t’ she says ‘NO WAY!’ and basically tells you all the reasons why you think that way, how to stop thinking that way, and how to stop doubting yourself.
The first thing that really resonated with me was the Big Snooze. Jen calls the Big Snooze the garbage that was stuffed into your subconscious as a kid that doesn’t ring true for you. The Big Snooze gets validation from outside sources. All those opinions of others that you might be worried about, that’s the Big Snooze. It’s boring and wasteful and takes up so much of our emotional space that’s very unnecessary. The Big Snooze are the people that you think you should care about their opinions, but those people are snoring away so who cares what they think! This is the first step to recognizing your beauty, stop caring about those schmucks and move on. Most people genuinely hate it when they see other people living their dream and they don’t have the balls to do it themselves.
“Whatever happens, stay the course, because there’s nothing cooler than watching your entire reality shift into one that is the perfect expression of you.” (page 47)
Jen starts every chapter with an anecdote to make her point relatable and comfortable. Some people may dislike this idea, but for me it made Jen to be more of a human being than some kind of spiritual profit. Generally I feel most people see self-help authors like yogi’s or religious leaders, but they aren’t, they are people with flaws just like you and me and everyone else and we all fuck up sometimes.
A lot of what happens throughout the book, for me at least, was an epiphany or what I like to call, my ‘duh!’ moment. When other people say, “It’s just as easy to believe we’re awesome as it is to believe we’re giant sucking things,” you’re like yeah that makes sense. But why does it take someone else to say it before I can believe it??
After reading several reviews I saw a lot of hate for the type of language Jen uses in her book. Customers say Jen calls you whiny and why would I listen to anyone that makes fun of me? Well I can defend it in a lot of ways. Sometimes we need some tough love and most of us don’t surround ourselves with people that will provide this. And why would you read a book about self-help if all you want is someone to stroke your ego? Seems like a big waste of time if you ask me. So Jen, I applaud you. You don’t hide behind fluffy words. And in her defence, she spends a lot of time tell you how wonderful you are.
APPRECIATE HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE! - Jen Sincero
Thank you, Jen.
She then moves the book into recognizing that self-love is not only important, but necessary for any productive change you want to see in your life. If you don’t love yourself. Your whole self! Then you won’t get everything you want. Do things you love, she says, really listen to how you speak and pay attention to what you do, and make a conscious effort to increase your joy in whatever capacity you can. (page 57).
I believe we can all get behind this. You’re right, it’s easier said than done, but Jen breaks down how to go about achieving these things in some simple steps and she brings up some interesting things I think we all do too often.
Personally, I feel guilty over anything I disagree with. I constantly play victim and I constantly believe that I’m a failure...at almost everything. All of this is ridiculous and it only makes my life SADDER. I’m my biggest set-back and I have a lot to change if I want to see myself truly succeed in the future.
I could go into the nitty gritty of the book, but overall I believe Jen Sincero did a wonderful job. The main reason why I give it an 8/10 is because towards the end I disagree with her talk on money. I have strong beliefs that you shouldn’t go into debt over anything unless you know you’re going to get that investment back. She believes otherwise and that’s just not something I can get behind.
If you’re looking for a book to help you get out of that funk you’re in then read this. If you’re looking for a book that surprisingly understands you then you’ll find that here.
The hardest part about this book is doing exactly what she says we all need to do. Which is love ourselves. Stop doubting ourselves and just go for what we want. Shamelessly, disregarding anyone’s thoughts or opinions of you just do you.
These are all steps we can do over time, but it’s not going to happen over a weekend.
Self work takes time and I think Jen did a great job saying you’re not totally fucked up, you’re great, but do you believe you’re great?
Go support your local library and grab this book. Read a few chapters. Let me know how you liked it and let’s talk!
Love yourself...and you will have it all.